With consent!

I have a friend, someone close to my heart! She is quite something i'll tell you that for sure, she went through a major change in her life not too long ago and we've talked a few times about it and I never thought she'd be asking me to write a story about it today. So with her consent I am going to tell you the story, she prefers to remain nameless and so it will be.

"I got pregnant at 16, I recently graduated High School and I knew I couldn't disappoint my parents. My boyfriend is much older than me and that situation could only make things worst. I thought about it a few times but it had to be done and finally I did it and now I regret it!"

I was not shocked when I saw the message on my phone, but I panicked anyway. Without a doubt,I knew that she was crazy to be thinking of abortion as an option, but it wasn't my place to say. But still, she was asking me.

I mean she is older than me,so I never once thought that she would be asking me but the bond that we have can be considered sisterhood like. I thought about it, if I should lie or if I should really say how I feel but I knew I couldn't accept it.

My mother lives in a different country, and so I messaged her and asked her the question, "Mum if i were to tell you that I am pregnant, would you let me abort the child?" Oh boy! she was not having it, but she knows me better than anyone and she said "You wouldn't be a fool to make the same mistakes that most women in our family did! So I know you're not pregnant but if you was pregnant I'd hate you for a while and probably want to kill you at the same time but i'd learn to deal with it and love my grandchild." (she did not say it nice like that, there's more but I prefer keep this clean and short.)

Seeing how angry my mother got and the fact that she did not like the idea, I knew I had to be honest with her. I responded to the message and said "Who else knows?" she told me but I was not expecting the answer she gave, I begged her to tell her mother but she resist, she ended up aborting the baby and told her mother afterwards.

I am not a fan of abortion but knowing her dilemma, I understood where she was coming from, she had her whole life ahead of her and she didn't want to jeopardize it. She trusted me enough to come to me and ask for my opinion but I didn't know what to respond because I didn't want to be too religious or too personal about it. But I said one thing though that she said stuck with her. I remembered telling her, "no matter what decision you make either keeping the child or throwing it away, people will still talk about you but I believe you know what is best for you and you know how I feel personally but as a friend I'll be there for you."

Her mother has finally come around and they are building their relationship but I can tell y'all that she has not gotten over what she did but she wanted me to write the story for two reasons.

1. "I know there are young girls in my situation and I don't want them to end up like me, regretting and thinking of what life could've been like. the what ifs and maybes."

2. "the more I keep it in, the heavier my chest get, its been two years and I need to get this out there, knowing you have a blog, it might help someone enno."

Decisions like these are often difficult to make but I believe that with the right friends and advice, you'll make the right decision. I can say that no matter how hard it may seem, never leave your parents out of something so big. Yes they may be mad and make noise but sometimes hearing them out could be the best thing to do. I've never been in that situation and I pray that God helps me stay on the path that I am on so therefore I can not give advice on such sentimental topic but I hope her story was inspiring enough. Be true to yourself and who you are!

#Ressurectionyear

#Findyourself

Love serg

P.S Leave your questions and I'll pass it on to her and hopefully you get the answer you want.

See you next Friday!