The PAST is the PAST!

One of the hardest things for most people is letting go of past events.

We are all human and we were born sinners so if there is one thing we're going to do is make mistakes and if God can forgive and erase these mistakes why we as humans hold grudges and dark clouds over others.

I am no where close to perfect, I make mistakes all the time, well not as much as before because my values back then and now has changed totally. In fact, If I lied years ago about a petty thing, If I made a statement that caused you pain in primary school, if in anyway shape or form I did something wrong, months, weeks or even days ago and asked for forgiveness and you said that you have forgiven me then what is the point of bringing it back up to my face years after.

A person's past mistakes does not determine their future or anything for that matter. When my mother left in 2012, I was at my worst, I was lost and I wanted to try almost everything and in the process I did some messed up things. In my opinion if I did not do them, I would not be where I am today or have that level of maturity and understanding that I now have. Recently, someone whom I considered a close friend flipped a switch that I never saw coming. She used something I did years ago and made it seem like that was me at present and that my situation was just a farce. When I say I am moving on or I forgive that is it, nothing more and nothing less and if I said sorry for something, that thing has been erased from my mind.

To be honest, there are some things you can never forget, be it what a person did or said to you. The famous saying says "forgive and forget" but the forgetting aspect is always questionable to me. What I believe is, you can decide how you move forward either with that person or without that person, positive or negative. No one wants to live with a knife to their neck just waiting to cut deep whenever one sees fit.

The past should remain the PAST! It's either you choose to go your separate way if it is going to be hard dealing with the person or you work through things and move on. Life and time is so short these days, in a matter of seconds things can turn for the worst so the need to jump and fight has become so unnecessary.

Many of us think that holding on to the past is a sign of strength. It often takes a lot more strength to move on with your life than holding on to a past that no longer exist.

Instead of living with regret when the worst comes why not try to create peace and lay the PAST to rest. People change with time, they grow up and values are altered and therefore instead of reminding them of their mistakes, be the help that they need for their self betterment and you never know how that might impact you.

Steve Maraboli once said “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”

Love Serg