Till Marriage; Hardest Decision Ever!

I was just 15 when I decided to make a purity vow in front of God, my church and my family at our church's annual purity rally. The older I got the more I realized how difficult keeping that vow is, I remembered the first time I got a crush on a guy and I longed for school to be over so I could see him and talk to him. I thought that it was getting serious since we've been talking for a month and I told him about my decision to abstain from sex until marriage and he stopped talking to me.

Sadly, I questioned myself a lot . Then the thought hit me, I shouldn't have to feel bad for someone not accepting me for who I am or for my faith and beliefs. Therefore, I talked to my mentor and she shared the same views, she explained that not everyone is going to understand my decision and it will be tougher as time goes by especially in the relationship area.

I became wiser as to who I let in and the friends I keep. I try not be alone with a guy in a close space and I avoid doing anything to jeopardize my chances of living up to my promise. In light of this, having strict parents also helped and still do. They made sure they were aware of my every moves as creepy as that sounds it kept me in check.

I believe making this vow is a choice and should not be forced on anyone, sex before marriage or after is a personal choice. I have my beliefs and I know how hard it may seem but having faith and believing in it like everything else makes it easy.

I 'am not going to be a hypocrite and lie by saying it is easy, because there are times I wonder about relationships and the many things that go with it. Furthermore, when I think of it, there's the fear of being pregnant at a young age, the fear of disobeying God and also disappointing my parents. In the end its a choice, and that choice is yours to make.

Thank you reading!

Love SJ

P.S Let me know what you think about the idea of abstaining from sex before marriage! and if you have any questions, feel free to reach out!

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